Breaking Old Traditions, and Creating New Ones

Britannica.com defines traditions as ways of thinking, behaving, or doing something that has been used by the people in a particular group, family, society, etc., for a long time.  Just because something has been done for a long time, does not mean that it is the only way of doing things, or that it should remain unaltered.  Read below to learn more about when to break old traditions and how to create new ones.

Breaking Old Traditions

Knowing when to break with old traditions does not have to be complicated.  There are many different reasons to leave traditions behind, or keep them, so we recommend starting with the following questions:

 

Does this tradition feel like an obligation?

If the primary reason behind the tradition is a sense of obligation, then it may be time for it to be left behind.  If you are the only one continuing this tradition, or no one particularly wants to partake in it, are there any changes that can be made? If there are not, and this still feels like an obligation, it is okay to start considering letting it go.

 

Do I feel supported and/or respected with this tradition?

Traditions are a group effort and if there is no support, then what are you ultimately getting out of the situation?  Sometimes asking for help from the individuals who are involved in the tradition can greatly change things.  If even after asking for help and respect you are still unable to get any help, consider if you would be happier without this tradition.

 

Does this tradition feel overwhelming?

If you answered yes, is there anything that can be done to make it feel less overwhelming?  How long does it take you to recover after partaking in this tradition?  If it constantly leaves you feeling overwhelmed and negatively impacts your mental health for days or longer, what is making you stick with this tradition?

Creating New Traditions

Whether you have just let go of an old tradition or simply want to start anew, here are 3 things to consider when creating a new tradition:

1. Try Something New

When you were growing up, what kinds of traditions did you have?  Was there anything that you saw that you wanted to try?


2. Reflect on Your Values

What is important to you?  New traditions are an excellent excuse to reflect upon what matters to you most and what you would like to invite more of into your life.  


3. Leave Perfection Behind

New things are never perfect, so it’s okay if your new tradition is messy in the beginning.  You’ll have plenty of time to tweak and make changes in the future as you grow into your new tradition.

Whether you are looking to discuss breaking an old tradition or how to implement new ones, Tabono is here to listen.  Please reach out to us via our Contact Us page, or call us at 513-846-5283 to get matched with one of our licensed therapists.  We look forward to working with you!

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